No Offense, but You’re Stupid

MICHELLE PAULINO
Staff Writer

What happened to respect in high school? As cliché as this question may sound, it deserves some consideration. This lack of respect is evident during passing period when students are often heard using colorful and derogatory language between one another. This behavior is not restricted to passing period; it is also common in a classroom setting where there is always at least one student who talks back to the teacher with attitude. However, disrespect can go both ways. In certain cases, even the teacher can put down the
student using undertones of condescension.
We all know teenagers arenʼt careful with what they say. Although some seemingly rude phrases are all in good sport, most donʼt realize that what they say can be misinterpreted for something much worse. Think of when one of your friends unknowingly said something very offensive to you and then continued the conversation as if nothing happened. They would usually mumble some disclaimer, like “no offense,” as a form of damage control. It doesnʼt feel too great, right? Now, I donʼt want to be all preachy and imply that you should be afraid of what you say to your friends, but reserving some respect and taking the time to think before you speak is rewarding.
In class, being respectful toward a teacher is usually implied. Unless the presence of a higher authority is necessary, students should respect the judgment of their teachers.
Although it is rare for a teacher to be disrespectful, it does occur. Take the insensitive homophobic rant expressed by an Arkansas school board member just last year. Through Facebook, Clint McCance of Midland School District ranted about the absurdity of “wear[ing]
purple because fi ve queers killed themselves.” Bullies come in different forms. If a teacher seems seriously out of line in class, talk to someone; a counselor, your friend or parent. Being a teacher does not justify degradation.
The first thing to do is to confront your teacher and let them know what they say is unacceptable. Teachers are human beings and can
make the mistake of unknowingly insulting a student. Being fond of every teacher in your academic career is highly unlikely. Even if teachers seem unfair, the best thing is to bear with it.
How can you be more respectful with who you interact? Start with your tone of voice. The way a conversationʼs tension dissolves
almost instantly is unbelievable. Consider this, just the way you talk to someone will make you sound more respectful and, as a result, help you gain respect.
After being surrounded by teenagers, sarcasm and sass are nothing out of the ordinary. Especially when talking to adults, the omission of a sarcastic attitude can greatly improve your chances of gaining respect from them. Constant usage of verbal irony causes aggravation on the receiving end and is more likely to result in punishments like additional work or a trip to Student Services. Skip the understatements and donʼt be a know-it-all.
Help the world in a little way by being respectful and learn to deal with those who arenʼt because ultimately, people will choose what
they want to say.